Fear of sexy, or not understanding sexy, is what is holding a lot of people back from really growing up and becoming something amazing.
There are four kinds of sexy.
The first one is the A1 kind of sexy. The A1 path is the child path, and their kind of sexy is the child kind of sexy. Think of the 13 year old in a schoolgirl uniform, with pigtails, or the 16 year old in a cheerleader uniform. The young in that age range have a lot of sexual energy, and almost anyone if they are being honest with themselves, find that sexy. That youthful, vibrant, exciting energy is often cute. The A1fs need to learn to celebrate that they're tiny and cute and fun, and they need to learn to play. Quit thinking of sex as conquest and a game you need to win, but rather as a fun game to play and enjoy. There will be lots of people to go home with you, because A1fs are always sexy - they're just a cute kind of sexy, not a voluptuous one. A1ms usually don't have trouble getting layed, they are usually cute and muscular.
The third kind is the A3 kind of sexy, the MILF, the one with the really big boobs, with wide hips and lots of curves. The A3 is the adult path, and this type of sexy is very common and easy to recognise. In almost all the sexually oriented films (like porn,)the women are the female A3. Stripclubs and porn movies are the biggest expressions of sexuality in this world, it's where men go when they want to see sexy women, they look for A3s. This is something that the A3fs need to begin to acknowledge. It's the big sexy voluptuous woman, not the skinny little cute girl, and this is what most people find sexy. The A3 male is a little older, hairier and has a little pot belly. Most of us have a deep instinctual response to people who are a little older and a little curvier rather than to teenagers. If they A3s can accept that they have this kind of sexy, they can begin to enjoy their lives and quit trying to be something else.
The second kind, the one that people have more trouble with, is the A2 kind of sexy, the supermodel. They're taller and slimmer, and they're untouchable. Think of them walking on the catwalk, wearing something see through. You can't really keep them, at best you can be their toy for a night and then they forget about you. People think the A2's are out of their league, so they end up either going to an extreme where their lovers are sex toys but never really have a relationship that means anything, or they go to the extreme where they avoid sex, and become perhaps the librarian stereotype. The A2 male is the professor and has that kind of sexy energy - they will find success in talking to people like a teacher, sharing what they know, being fascinating and interesting. It doesn't matter what your thing is, if you can just relax and be yourself and talk, you will be immensely attractive.
The fourth kind is the A0 sexy, the one of small children, and this is the one that you'll find uncomfortable. They're full of life and climb and play and race down the street on rollerskates, and part of you looks at that ... and then you shut it down because you feel bad. We'll leave this one alone aside from, they are not ready to have sex, so don't. The fun and playful attitude of children, through, is really healthy in adults who are having sex or playing with being sexy together, and it is immensely appealing. Sex and sexy is a lot better when you are having fun and making people laugh. You are much more interesting when you have the A0 energy.
The A1s want to look like A3s and have bigger boobs, and the A3s want to look like A1 because they think they're too big. Stop that. Celebrate your own body, instead of trying to be someone else. A3s who are trying really hard to look like A1s end up sounding a little creepy and slimy, but when they're being themselves and comfortable with the fact that they're a little older and have a little more experience, they can be very sexy.
Angel, 2015-04-22
