A3m - The Coach

General Description

• Level: A, discovering who you are in this lifetime
• Track: 3, guiding and guarding others
• Ideal Partner: his ideal partner is the A3f - The Earth Mother
• Leads to: when fully encompassed, he moves to the B3M
• Example: King Arthur or the ultimate super-dad

• You're doing amazing. I'm so proud of you.

Light

Think of, maybe King Arthur, a powerful and noble leader, or the biggest and strongest and most amazing “dad” you can imagine.

To fully encompass the light side of this archetype, it's necessary to encompass all of the items in this list and to be comfortable with all of the items in A3f - The Earth Mother. As you develop these items, all of the characteristics of the A0 - The Holy Childmust continue to grow stronger to provide a solid base for these.

• • Male
• • Strong (strong-willed, self-confident, strong personality)
• • Often physically strong
• • Extremely competent at whatever he does
• • Vigilant, aware, notices everything
• • A protector
• • Designs structures, makes rules (businesses, groups, sports teams, …)
• • Seeks justice, balance, and harmony
• • Comfortably sexual
• • Many new ideas, inventor, architect
• • Excellent judgment
• • Good at reading people
• • Listens to others, seeks wise council
• • Understand and teaches worldly success
• • Knows that worldly success without spiritual is pointless. Thus seeks and teaches the spirit as well
• • Brilliant, a clear thinker
• • Very disciplined
• • Decides clearly and firmly, not hesitant
• • Confident, unshakable once he’s decided
• • Works hard for what matters to him
• • Guides those who ask
• • Energetic, determined
• • Organized and methodical, he will evaluate, plan and then act
• • Ideal leader
• • Works well with the passion, creativity, etc of the A3f
• • Good with kids and animal
• • Seeks and sees the fundamentals
• • Takes responsibility
• • Calm, patient, sure
• • The ultimate father, teacher, guide archetype

Shadow

Think of Jack the ripper or any serial killer, the psychopath

The shadow side of this archetype can show any or all of the characteristics in the following list and all of those from still out-of-balance A0 - The Holy Child.

• • Male
• • Weak-willed, he needs anger to motivate him
• • Often (though not always) physically small and weak
• • Hyper-vigilant, paranoid in some things
• • Clueless or unaware in others
• • Follows chaotic rules or patterns
• • Petty and inconsistent
• • Both too permissive and too controlling
• • Seeks comfort or reassurance but only for self
• • Uptight or even horrified about sex. Will often associate sex with death, pain, dead animals, horrific images, etc.
• • Stuck in unhealthy patterns, fears. Has no control over them
• • Struggles for external control to make up for this.
• • Racist or sexist or some –ist, he needs to have something, someone, some organization, etc to despise
• • Can’t hear guidance. Even if he does hear, he won’t accept it because he’s stuck in his inner patterns.
• • Confused by the world’s structures and rules. They violate his inner patterns and that baffles and frightens him
• • Thinks in confused, muddy, disjointed ways
• • Lazy, careless, undisciplined, a quitter
• • Vacillates, wishy-washy
• • Self-doubting (self-loathing). Can’t stand criticism
• • Feels somehow entitled
• • Lots of self-pity and blame, anger.
• • May help those he likes and can manipulate
• • Weak, aloof, depressed
• • Driven, but only in bursts
• • Impulsive, unclear, stalls and leaps
• • Obsessively meticulous and sloppy in turn
• • Deeply wants to be “robin” to someone else’s “batman” but trusts no-one and fears rejection so he can rarely find someone to submit to.
• • Hates/fears strong women
• • Feels all women are evil, manipulative
• • Can’t even acknowledge that he has a feminine side
• • Childish, he can have tantrums and be petty
• • Can only see the surface of things, never the depths. This baffles him.
• • Can’t take responsibility, he ignores, blames, or attacks.
• • Impatient, often jumpy, always afraid (though he’d never admit it)
• • Vindictive, cruel
• • Insecure
• • Aloof or aggressive when challenged
• • Thinks dominance *is* authority
• • A rapist, he will seek small or weak women and abuse them
• • Fears female sexual organs and prefers anal sex, not for pleasure but to prove dominance
• • Feels he is a “bad boy” and wants to be punished
• • Insecure, he craves nice clothes, pretty women, fast cars and so on to make him feel more a man.