Everyone has male and female energy inside, even if most people don't realise it. The female energies are more subtle and passive, they are softer, better at patience and allowing and being open to experiences. The male energies are more direct and active, stronger, better at being focussed and pushing through and making things happen. They are yin and yang, water and fire.

Throughout history, the male and female energies have been at war with each other - they've suppressed each other, critisised each other, abused each other and hated each other bitterly for thousands of years.

The war between the genders is now over - it ended during the Shift from 2010-2015. But like with any old conflict, much of the fear and hatred still remains. Over half a century after World War 2, when barely any adults are left who experienced the war, there are still many people who hate, fear and distrust Germans.

An example from Steven Universe

A beautiful example of how the male and female energies can and should interact with each other, is found in the Steven Universe episodes "The Answer" (S2) and "Hit the Diamond" (S3).

In "The Answer", Ruby (the male energy) and Sapphire (the female energy) meet, and although their kind have never gotten along, something happens that lets them fall in love so completely that they fuse into one, and become Garnet. As Garnet, they are something new and wonderful, wiser and stronger and more capable than both of them were by themselves. They find such joy and love in being together.

In "Hit the Diamond", Garnet unfuses into Ruby and Sapphire to help solve a situation. Even when they are separated, Ruby and Sapphire spend the entire episode flirting with each other, being so in love that they can't stop looking at each other, touching each other, talking to each other and being close.

Ruby and Sapphire are so stable and balanced together, nothing can separate them when they decide to be fused. For over 5000 years, they stayed together and very much in love, without ever losing the way they felt about each other. Once they merged, they complemented each other beautifully and made each other something more than either of them was alone. They never had to loose the feeling of being in love with one another.

This is how it should be in everybody.

By contrast, when Amethyst (the male energy) and Pearl (the female energy) first merged, it was awkward. They despised each other and were always fighting. They hated merging, and although it made them stronger for a brief time, they broke apart very quickly when they could not maintain any sense of harmony between them, and were left full of resentment for each other.

This is how most people work, both with relationships and with the male and female energies inside. They spend so much time fighting each other. Most people don't let themselves truly love. They fall in love, but keep their distance from each other. At first they may feel very strongly and be very close and touch each other all the time ... but after only a short while, months, years, they are screaming at each other or barely talk at all anymore.

Falling in love with yourself

The male and female parts within you are like old people, remembering a violent and ugly war in which both parties committed atrocities.

Every single person gets a choice. You can either wait until the oldest generation dies, and maybe 3 or 4 generations away have healthy people who have united the male and female within themselves ... or you can choose to change. You can recognise that, whether you like it or not, there are male and female parts of you; that both parts are insecure and dislike themselves; that both parts dislike and fear one another. You can go inside and begin to change that, to educate them, to help them grow up, to help them forgive and to teach both parts to love.

Those are your choices.

The echoes of hate, when fed, last a lifetime or more. But you can choose to recognise that those things are there. The male hates the female, the female hates the male, both hate themselves. You can begin to actively work to change those parts of yourself. It is possible that within a single lifetime, you can change, instead of being scared and hateful till the day you die.

If you can get the male and female parts of yourself to fall in love with one another, together they will become something beautiful and stable that makes you stronger and healthier. Instead of the fear and hatred for the male and female parts within yourself, you can have that feeling of being in love, of wanting to touch and talk and support each other all the time.

If you can get the male and female inside yourself to fall in love ... you can maintain that after the body dies, and carry that deep and beautiful love with you to what's next.